SirEdward
Well-Known Member
This is what I keep trying to tell you, the problem isn't sex in and off itself, the problem is ADULTS exploiting CHILDREN. A 14 year old having sex with someone close to their age is not generally considered a big issue (assuming no teen pregnancies and such), what is an issue is an adult who has vastly more experience, is a magnitude stronger and typically much more adapt at manipulation going after children. You can twist it however you want, they are children developmentally, legally and socially, they are simply not able to guard against behaviors that are not obviously predatory. This is why consent laws exist in the first place, it is an attempt to protect children from victimization by adults, it is not to shield them from reality of sex or any other such nonsense.
I can't see in the Spacey-Rapp thing an adult trying to exploit a child, I see a 26yo not grown enough trying to find gay sex in very young person who was clearly not in the mood. Rapp -WAS- able to say "no, thanks", because Spacey didn't try to manipulate him (if not by inviting him to the party). What Rapp says is quite clear.
You speak to me of teachers and priests, or boy-souts chiefs? Boom, I agree with you 100% on the exploitation. You speak to me of people trying to blackmail him? Boom, I agree with you again. Tou speak to me of buyng him with money or sthe like? Yes, I am again with you. But this... I can't see it, and Rapp was evidently able to refuse and go away, which wouldn't have happenend with a child 3 years younger than him.
I approve of that? No, I don't find it healthy that a 26 yo find interest in a 14yo, because for this to happen something must be wrong in the 26yo that might affect the 14yo as well, but this doesn't mean the thing is violent or deserve jail or public shaming, because I don't see the exploitation in this specific case.