Egh. I hate getting lectures and generally being told what's right and wrong by my younger sister. Its annoying, and also doesn't make sense. I'm supposed to lecture her.
Also, I don't know how to do spoiler tags so this next bit contains womanly things.
Got into a long discussion about birth control today. Now I have to tell my parents I'd like to go on it and I must tell them one of three things: "Mom, dad, I'm sleeping with two guys and I'd appreciate it if you put me on birth control." "Mom, dad, I've got a boyfriend now and I want to go on birth control just to be safe." "Mom, dad, I'm at the age now where I might start seeing guys and I think you should put me on birth control just in case I start doing stuff." Its either that, or have my friend Faye (who's helping me do all this) talk to them. In which case its going to be hilarious. And I really can't wait to see my parents' reaction. What's the worst they can do? Say no? Kick me out? :lol:
^ claim it's to help with cramps/other issues to do with that- that's how I ended up on the pill
EDIT: did I just write that????
I'm more asleep than I thought :
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You know, fuck the pill. Fuck all hormonal birth control. I've been on a few since 18/19, and yes it's nice to not have to worry about a condom breaking, but no thank you to the side effects: weight gain, not feeling 100% myself, feeling depressed for no reason, etc. The thing I hate is that all doctors say that you don't gain weight if you are on BC... uhm, yes you do, it might not be 10+ pounds, but you
will gain weight and good luck shedding those pounds afterwards. Heck, I was on the NuvaRing for two months earlier this year, as soon as I stopped I honestly was suicidal
for no reason. Thoughts of driving off a cliff, sharp knives, etc. didn't scare me a bit which usually do since suicide is a crappy way out, that and I don't want to leave my pup alone without me :3
So I looked up on WebMD about NuvaRing, guess what? A LOT of women have reported the same things if not worse symptoms, yet when I told my gyno about them she said I should see a psychiatrist since it "wasn't related to the ring"... right... when I first went to her the first method she blurted out was the NuvaRing, methinks she gets a kickback even though that is a no-no.
If anything, look in to the Mirena or copper T. Mirena does use hormones but it's much less than what oral contraceptives have in them. The Copper T is good but you'd need to find out if you're allergic to it or not. Thing is, the doc might not want to give it to you since you're supposed to have a kid first (bigger uterus) but you CAN get one, you just have to fight with them to get it or find a willing doctor. Planned Parenthood
will give you one but you will have to pay out of pocket since they don't accept insurance period.
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Also, you're old enough where you (icedlove) should be able to talk to your parents about this without being weirded out or sheepish. Yea it'll be weird to talk about it, but getting a friend to do it for you (or help) is really... honestly, lame. It's like having Jane tell Timmy that you like him because you can't do it yourself. Cojones, grow some
Sorry for the rant o.o;
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They still sell those in the UK? They were all recalled and taken off he market in the US decades ago. Seems they were being inserted and disappearing completely when it came time to remove. (They were called Norplant in the US if you're into google-fu. I'm not.) Maybe this is some new and improved version, but I wouldn't get attached to the idea without research. Other options include an IUD (which you almost certainly won't be given at your age as there is a small risk of permanent infertility), the patch, the ring, and depoprevera (shot). You're right that you have to be religious about the pill. All the methods are different in how they work and have sometimes significant health consequences that need to be considered by your doctor.
I don't know squat about international insurance. I just know here that BC is only paid for by insurance when it's for medical purposes like fibroids or endometerosis.
Patch isn't sold anymore, to my knowledge, and those who did Depo had severe side effects to the point that it was pulled and is no longer offered. The ring also has a lawsuit against it for various side effects that weren't disclosed or weren't known at the time. Most of the "good" contraceptives are the oral ones, but if honestly can't remember to take the pill then you're not ready for it. If you have a phone, set an alarm for when to take it or, better yet, take it at breakfast, lunch or even dinner! What a great idea for not forgetting!
Oh, and there
are condoms out there that are thin material to the point you can feel.. him but not as good as without one. I think they're called Kimono.. not sure, I can find out though