How is taking care of a kid fun? You do it because you have to and society will damn you if you don't.
Bullshit. Why is it when people don't understand something, they naturally assume societal pressures or some other crap? I understand why many of you don't want kids, and I'll respect those reasons, but to say something like "You do it because you have to" is dumb. Yes, raising kids is exhausting, yes it'll run you into financial ruin, but you know what? Those 45 mins of playing catch with my nephew in my brother's backyard? One of the best goddamn feelings ever. I want that for myself, spending time with my own kid, watching them grow, and not become as cynical as some of you nuts.
Bullshit. Why is it when people don't understand something, they naturally assume societal pressures or some other crap? I understand why many of you don't want kids, and I'll respect those reasons, but to say something like "You do it because you have to" is dumb. Yes, raising kids is exhausting, yes it'll run you into financial ruin, but you know what? Those 45 mins of playing catch with my nephew in my brother's backyard? One of the best goddamn feelings ever. I want that for myself, spending time with my own kid, watching them grow, and not become as cynical as some of you nuts.
I get a lot of crap from a lot of people about not wanting kids. I'm finally getting old enough for people to actually listen when I say I don't want kids, instead of dismissing it as the silly notions of a child. It's frustrating to have my wants, my desires, and my knowledge of myself dismissed by someone who barely knows me.However, on the societal pressure part...
Those 45 mins of playing catch with my nephew in my brother's backyard? One of the best goddamn feelings ever. I want that for myself, spending time with my own kid, watching them grow, and not become as cynical as some of you nuts.
This is why some of us just don't want children.
I get that, and that's a perfectly valid reason not to have children. But for that other guy to say the only reason to want kids is because of societal pressure is childish and naive.
I'd be interested to see what's happened in ten years time to all those who don't want kids.
My money's on 80% of them being parents by then.
Hmm.Look at the source.
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Agree 100%. However, on the societal pressure part....I feel it is my duty as an intelligent individual to further the human race. I see people everywhere of below average intelligence who have multiple children and I feel it my civic duty to counteract that force.
This is why some of us just don't want children. I grew up babysitting my cousins every so often, I have a younger brother, and experienced all the joys a family can offer...and yet, I see a child and have zero feelings towards it, other than impatience, even if it's family. I mean, I wish it no ill will, but I would rather not be involved in any way.
Then again, I don't find baby animals cute, I don't want any pets, except maybe fish. So, while I will readily admit that I'm on the more "extreme" side of the not-wanting-kids graph, I know there are lots of us...and of those 80% that end up having kids, MWF, how many were on accident a they just decided to keep it, rather than actually wanting one?I have one aunt who had three sons. Her husband, my uncle, had a vasectomy. He was ready to file for divorce when she got pegnant with their 4th until the paternity test results came back that it was his. They didn't want any more kids, he even had surgery on his nether regions to avoid another one, and they still ended up with a kid. Well, a miscarriage, but still...
My brother is geting married in July, and I can assure you that their spawn (of which I'm sure there will be some coming shortly after the nuptuals) will be of no interest to me. I won't be anxiously awaiting pics on facebook, I couldn't care less what names they are considering or the sex of the baby. None of that world appeals to me in the least... I think I'd be a terrific father, and I think I would raise a great kid. Honestly. I'm not kidding. However, it appeals to me none.
It is funny, though, how many people just roll their eyes, even when I point blank say "No...I dislike children."
Meanwhile the numbskulls are still at it like rabbits and the litigious, health & safety culture in which we live that is slowly but surely kiddy-proofing the world means the stoopid is proliferating at an alarming rate.
We aren't heading for the stars as a species. By the time the oil runs out there will be nobody left of sufficient nous to come up with a serious alternative, society will crumble, populations will starve and be decimated and by 10,000 AD we'll be back in caves again just in time for the next Ice Age.
Definitely.
Te real shame is that so many people, several examples here, who are intelligent, have many other good qualities and would make excellent, nurturing parents are the ones choosing not to breed.
Meanwhile the numbskulls are still at it like rabbits and the litigious, health & safety culture in which we live that is slowly but surely kiddy-proofing the world means the stoopid is proliferating at an alarming rate.
We aren't heading for the stars as a species. By the time the oil runs out there will be nobody left of sufficient nous to come up with a serious alternative, society will crumble, populations will starve and be decimated and by 10,000 AD we'll be back in caves again just in time for the next Ice Age.