You don't have to be a jerk, but "going out of your way to be nice" isn't going to help you in any way. Women won't be attracted to you if you act like a wuss. (No offence) This goes back to what SuperStalin said, keep her guessing, tease her, don't be predictive, don't act needy, don't kiss up to her. While it may not sound right or logical, it's true. If you have time to kill, read "The Game" by Neill Strauss. It's entertaining and you'll learn something.
@otispunkmeyer:
I've been there before and I know what SuperStalin is saying is not what you want to hear right now. He is right though, maybe you'll see it in couple of weeks time. Women are plentiful and obsessing over a single one is not helping.
think you just nailed it there..... women are rarely logical in certain states.
i remember when me n her were out one night, drunk, havign a good time and she misplaced her purse, though there is also a high chance it was pinched (loughborough is full of twoc'ers)
she as in a complete flap, i had to chase her out the club because she just bolted for the door. i was like just calm down its not the end of the world....
even though i was drunk, i seem to able to work around that and focus seriously on something. we got in, i phoned up her bank, cancelled her cards and that was that. crisis over. but she didnt see it that way till morning.
its really wierd because i was on the phone to her last night, and we were talking just like we always used to.
i spoke to a good friend of mine, tim, who is also a good friend of vicky's, she'd phoned him a week ago in tears about what she should do. he seems to get the impression that all the stress, coupled with seeing the same people all time, and without me there....is the reason she lost the feeling. makes sense...but then again guys always make sense.
i think i had of had time to go see her in the last 6 weeks of term it would of been ok. but for reasons out of my control that just wasnt possible.
ill wait a week or two, till shes calmed down and just ask her why, and give my POV. i didnt give her it at the time because girls in that state almost never listen to a word you say. hopefully she may be willing to give it another go...for longer... (only if it turns out distance and lack of physically being there is the culprit)
you are also correct about hanging over one girl, i know you are rigth, but i dont go out with a girl for 2 years just because i like her lol.....its gonna be pretty hard to not think of her all the time for a while because i still love her, but i guess i will eventally learn to just move on.
still need to sort out her bday present (for the 25th) she spent a fair bit on me, so id like to return the favour (as a friend)
bit wierd i should mention moving on, as much as i really dont want to....i know its for the best, and i guess subconciously my mind knows this too, because i was quite mesmorised by a girl at the gym yesterday and i got the perfect chance to introduce myself as well.
she left her gym card on the floor, not knowing whos it was i picked it up and just looked around for someone who looked like this girl on the photo....turns out it was this girls who i'd eye'd up during the muscle endurance class.... her names moira which is a pretty fucking cool name.
thats all i found out like, she was in a hurry to get off somewhere as was i because i wanted to get back for the F1. ill introduce my self more formally i think, next time i see her. not sure how old she is like....she drives a mini cooper so she's etiher older with a decent job, or daddy paid for it.
i feel so wrong looking at other girls already
but if in a few weeks i find its pretty much set that me n vicky are over for good...well i might as well meet new girls.
heh i think my mind is abit messed up now as well. got a good laugh out of my mate who says that he always makes himself better with a fat chick:lol:
again, cheers everyone for the support.... i owe you guys some beers!