I guess so. I try to be the best father possible while still being a person, not just his father. I feel some people become just that: Whatshisname's father/mother.This means your theory of never owning a car again might not go to plan.
Having met you, Mrs. Redliner, and Redliner 2.0, you guys are very close, even if what you say is such that you don't plan your life around your son, I still believe you do/have done that perhaps in a more passive way instead of making parenting your main focus like you're some sort of American Nuclear Family.
Ugh, I've seen so many marriages and relationships end because one wanted kids and the other didn't.That may be a big point actually - and very nicely put. That latter part is indeed very different for many parents. While I wouldn’t say our daughter was accidental, we really didn’t make big plans… and that didn’t change much after the fact. We also didn’t Baby proof the apartment in a big way tbh.
100% agree.Yeah, children being just part of life and not the one and only focus of everything is a big positive, I agree. Not to the point of neglect, of course.