Middle-aged single men.
There is no birthright to a partner, especially not an above-average attractive one. If one expects their partner to look like they've just fallen out of OnlyFans or Instagram, put in some damn effort yourself.
- Dress well
- Work out
- Get a decent haircut
- Be willing to make an effort and step outside your comfort zone
- Related to this, deal with your issues - if you've been single for years, it might be about you.
This does not mean everyone has to invest 4k€ in man-purses*, but one should at least
care ("which blipshift shirt shall I wear today?" does not count). And if you don't want a partner who has love handles (is that term still PC?) and wears brightly-colored Jack Wolfskin outdoor jackets everywhere because it's so practical, look at yourself as well. What do you wear? What does your look tell about you?
And before you tell me this is oh so superficial and you want to be loved for your beautiful soul and intellect and not for the way you dress, why again do you refuse to even go out with that brilliant but overweight woman I wanted to introduce to you? Because her weight turns you off? Wtf? On, and why is your Tinder still filtering for under-30s while you are rapidly approaching 40? Because what your partner has to say is more important to you than how firm her behind is? Surely so. And why shall a woman respect all your time-consuming hobbies, but you won't date a single mom cause you don't want the limitations on your lifestyle that come with a kid?
This stems from a collection of conversations with a wide variety of men between 35 and 45 from different ways of life across the last few years.
EDIT: Also, think about target group fit - if you are an oil-stained wifebeater wearing, hand-rolled cigarette smoking, bottled beer drinking, classic car daily driving bloke, don't expect to score with posh cocktail drinking wannabe fashion models. You will attract mostly tattooed rockabellas. Not that there's anything wrong with that... but don't come whining about again not having gotten that model girl.
*This has nothing to do with money - one of FinalGears best-styled men,
@public , takes pride in being a penny-pincher of the highest order.